Saturday, October 11, 2008

Fridays

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I love Fridays. It's not because it's the last day of a work week, since homemakers/mothers/wives typically do not have any rest day... they are on call 24/7. I don't know about you out there, but I know I am. What makes me look forward to this particular day of the week, is that I get to meet up with some good friend mums from school. After the kids are off to school, we sneak in a breakfast meeting to just spend time together, complain about school/teachers etc.

Now don't call me a tai tai, as I am far from one. It just pisses me off when people assume that if you don't work and stay home to take care of kids, you are a tai tai. That is so totally untrue and something which most homemakers like me will totally protest against. Well, if I were a tai tai, where would I have the time to be sitting here and blogging, and not to mention cooking, and cleaning house, etc? I'd be out shopping and having high teas or organising some charity do. And since I do not have maids or fancy cars (well, not even a broken second hand car), how do I qualify as one? I'm sure you can tell that someone stepped on my toes with that comment.

Now, back to the topic at hand. I do treasure the few hours on Fridays, be it for breakfast or lunch and I know it's very quickly coming to a halt once our kids start school. Two mums would leave our area to start new homes in other parts of Singapore and two will remain, although one will migrate soon to Oz, and one has a new baby to mind. Well, what say you mums, that we might still occasionally meet up on Friday for lunch when kids have left for school? I know it's not easy. But I'm sure we will find a way. The friendship with these mums sure is precious to me and I do thank God for them all, for He has blessed me with such caring and reliable friends who live so close by, and to whom I can turn in times of trouble, and bless J, who so kindly offered to take care of my girl while I was planning a last minute trip to China with hubby. However, the trip on my part has been cancelled so there is no need to bother her with that now. But it touched me that she said 'my doors are always open to you'. KY offered to mind princess too, but unfortunately she lives too far away and I would have liked her to continue to go to school while I was away. But thanks so much for offering, KY, and for being such a wonderful godma. :)

14 comments:

Miz Young said...

*mwah* that's what godmas are for dear! And besides, even if we had her for those few days and she needed to go to school, we'll find our way there and back everyday, not to worry!

Beau Lotus said...

You're lucky you do not have 3 kids, fake Tai Tai :-). Nobody in their right mind would want to help look after them all at the same time...So I'm stuck at home doing non-Tai Tai things on Tai Tai time like you.

SIG said...

miz young - Ah no... I couldn't bother you to send her half way round the world to school since you 'fake' tai tai too, do not drive. ;)

beau lotus - Oh, thankfully I do not have 3. Hahaha! Hurray for fake tai tais. :P

karlsfoodie said...

yes i can understand hw unhappy u r when ppl call u tai tai.. i encounter many such ppl who call mi taitai too... just find them stupid!!

Jori said...

Please forgive my ignorance...what the heck is a tai tai? Does this mean something to the effect of being a kept woman, or something??
When I was a stay at home Mom - best 4 years of my life - I found I was busier than I had been when I had worked! Being a mother really is the toughest (but most sastisfying) job there is.
Don't let silly people upset you... they just are not worth it.

SIG said...

karlsfoodie - Yes, totally!

SIG said...

jori - Check this out, and no it's not a 'kept woman'. But you are so right. The term 'SAHM' is totally misinterpreted.

http://blog.seattlepi.nwsource.com/redlantern/archives/145370.asp?source=rss

tigerfish said...

Someone stepped on my toes on this issue of Tai Tai too! So much social stigma on women not working....! I dislike that a lot!

SIG said...

tigerfish - Join the gang!

Beachlover said...

oh! the tai tai calling sound like old lady! Nobody called me tai tai yet!lol! I guess you can said the living style here is different from Asia.They just call us bu first name..You are lucky to have a caring godma!

Jori said...

Okay, now I understand the meaning of the word... wouldn't it be heavenly to get to indulge in this way of living - just once in a while?? I love sleeping in... getting my nails done... being married to someone wealthy would be nice (as long as I really loved him)...
You, my dear, Sig, should have thought this a compliment - it just proves you do your SAHM job so well it looks like you are a lady of leisure!! lol (Just another way to look at it)

SIG said...

jori - Well, unfortunately for most of us Asian women, we take it as an insult when it's really not the case. As there is a double meaning to it, like we are good-for-nothings, and all we do if we're SAHMs is that we have it easy and life is great and free of worries. And all we do is shop and relax.

beachlover - You are lucky you don't get that in US. Well, they don't call us tai tai because we are married women. It's like a ridicule. Yes, my girl is lucky. :)

daphne said...

Ouch! That's not a nice comment about SAHM. The amount of work and dedication that a mum needs to have needs to be realized out in the community.

daphne said...

Ouch! That's not a nice comment about SAHM. The amount of work and dedication that a mum needs to have needs to be realized out in the community.